truthtelling

Banish martyr mama: your fulfillment matters

Enthusiastic thumbs up if you're a mama who spends unfathomable hours driving your children around and supporting them at appointments and lessons and games and school. Yeah. Me too. It is most challenging for me to be mindfully in the moment during the hours I spend in the car alone while being taxi driver for [...]

Tank tops and hard questions: one way to deal with Entitled Patriarchy Incarnate

So let's say you are running the errands after a morning at the office and a lunch talking shop with your dearest work friends. And you head into the pet store to grab some kitty litter feeling all happy you have such dear friends. You push your cart with a bounce in your step, stop [...]

Female abundance: sister, I’ll hold your hand

I have had a day filled with the influence of strong women. I'm the biggest fan of a mama/daughter duo who change the world by relentlessly challenging how women 'should' move their bodies. Lifting weights and declaring Olympic hopes are risky endeavors for women, but they unapologetically volunteer to be seen on television and standing [...]

Love always wins: start with the heretical act of self-love

People struggling to love themselves don't like it when you love yourself. And it is your job to get over the resistance. When you are so in your zone, when you are ignoring all judgment, when you are being heretical, breaking the rules by being okay with your wrinkles and gray hair and saying fuck [...]

“Unlearn Moderation” released!

I'm excited to announce the release of my second poetry collection Unlearn Moderation: Mindfood for Heretics. The theme of this project is human connection. We all must choose to risk vulnerability to authentically connect with our fellow earthly travelers. Steeped in our fly-by culture, we are being sold interaction as connection and it is just [...]

Living on purpose: the call to expand or delete

Moving through the editing process of work written over two years ago is taxing. Every week 5000 words to my editor and every week processing her requested revisions. She has a lovely, self-proclaimed habit of encouraging authors with a seemingly innocuous three-word phrase: expand or delete. It is a cue meant to direct the author [...]

Enrich our world: choose vulnerability

It's coming up on two years since Mom died. In fact, Mother's Day will be the date two years ago that I received the call. And two years ago on Mother's Day was the last day and night I spent with Mom. Since I have been editing Body 2.0, the book, I have found myself in [...]

The freedom of adaptability: change is my bitch

How do you fear change? All humans fear change on some level. Some people have to have their day play out down to the minute. Others can go with the flow to some extent. I've learned over time in my practice and, most illustratively, in my own life that those best able to roll with [...]

Going for it all: code breaking and discovering new worlds

  My code breaking days are over. I've been a code breaker for almost 41 years and I retired today: I started wearing hearing aids. Most folks I encounter have no idea I am partially deaf. It was just my normal. By sitting in the front of class (deaf teacher's pet), lip reading and applying [...]