Love always wins: start with the heretical act of self-love

People struggling to love themselves don't like it when you love yourself. And it is your job to get over the resistance. When you are so in your zone, when you are ignoring all judgment, when you are being heretical, breaking the rules by being okay with your wrinkles and gray hair and saying fuck [...]

Living on purpose: the call to expand or delete

Moving through the editing process of work written over two years ago is taxing. Every week 5000 words to my editor and every week processing her requested revisions. She has a lovely, self-proclaimed habit of encouraging authors with a seemingly innocuous three-word phrase: expand or delete. It is a cue meant to direct the author [...]

Enrich our world: choose vulnerability

It's coming up on two years since Mom died. In fact, Mother's Day will be the date two years ago that I received the call. And two years ago on Mother's Day was the last day and night I spent with Mom. Since I have been editing Body 2.0, the book, I have found myself in [...]

The freedom of adaptability: change is my bitch

How do you fear change? All humans fear change on some level. Some people have to have their day play out down to the minute. Others can go with the flow to some extent. I've learned over time in my practice and, most illustratively, in my own life that those best able to roll with [...]

Going for it all: code breaking and discovering new worlds

  My code breaking days are over. I've been a code breaker for almost 41 years and I retired today: I started wearing hearing aids. Most folks I encounter have no idea I am partially deaf. It was just my normal. By sitting in the front of class (deaf teacher's pet), lip reading and applying [...]

Reaching escape velocity: being brave enough for instead

No meaningful accomplishment comes without desire. When you are staring down the fear of failure, "meh, whatever" is not going to cut it. We've all experienced it. There is that thing. You know, that thing you tell yourself that you want. That thing that you feel like you really, really want. But there you are [...]

Love and potential: finding the edge

A few days ago I was in the office for a full day of sessions. I coach individuals and partnerships on the ways of Aphrodite, sometimes that means sex, sometimes love, oftentimes both. As is appropriate, I feel deep passion and love for my job. My work feeds my spirit. I simultaneously feel accidentally lucky [...]

Conquer: an open letter to skeptics after a day in the Living Balance office

You know what is magic? You are. You move through this world with more power than you can even imagine. Every moment your intention ties the universe into stunning shapes and most of the time you don't even realize it. I say it all the time: "You have powerful energy." I sit here observing you, [...]

Radiate your power: yes all women…yes all humans

I am finding it highly challenging to concentrate on anything other than writing about misogyny, female control theory, and violence. When women own their sexual power it not only can be dangerous, but also is fundamental to women being whole. Living in that paradox is counterculture. There are positive effects of women owning their full [...]