Emotion

Banish martyr mama: your fulfillment matters

Enthusiastic thumbs up if you're a mama who spends unfathomable hours driving your children around and supporting them at appointments and lessons and games and school. Yeah. Me too. It is most challenging for me to be mindfully in the moment during the hours I spend in the car alone while being taxi driver for [...]

Love always wins: start with the heretical act of self-love

People struggling to love themselves don't like it when you love yourself. And it is your job to get over the resistance. When you are so in your zone, when you are ignoring all judgment, when you are being heretical, breaking the rules by being okay with your wrinkles and gray hair and saying fuck [...]

“Unlearn Moderation” released!

I'm excited to announce the release of my second poetry collection Unlearn Moderation: Mindfood for Heretics. The theme of this project is human connection. We all must choose to risk vulnerability to authentically connect with our fellow earthly travelers. Steeped in our fly-by culture, we are being sold interaction as connection and it is just [...]

Living on purpose: the call to expand or delete

Moving through the editing process of work written over two years ago is taxing. Every week 5000 words to my editor and every week processing her requested revisions. She has a lovely, self-proclaimed habit of encouraging authors with a seemingly innocuous three-word phrase: expand or delete. It is a cue meant to direct the author [...]

Enrich our world: choose vulnerability

It's coming up on two years since Mom died. In fact, Mother's Day will be the date two years ago that I received the call. And two years ago on Mother's Day was the last day and night I spent with Mom. Since I have been editing Body 2.0, the book, I have found myself in [...]

The freedom of adaptability: change is my bitch

How do you fear change? All humans fear change on some level. Some people have to have their day play out down to the minute. Others can go with the flow to some extent. I've learned over time in my practice and, most illustratively, in my own life that those best able to roll with [...]

Reaching escape velocity: being brave enough for instead

No meaningful accomplishment comes without desire. When you are staring down the fear of failure, "meh, whatever" is not going to cut it. We've all experienced it. There is that thing. You know, that thing you tell yourself that you want. That thing that you feel like you really, really want. But there you are [...]

Love and potential: finding the edge

A few days ago I was in the office for a full day of sessions. I coach individuals and partnerships on the ways of Aphrodite, sometimes that means sex, sometimes love, oftentimes both. As is appropriate, I feel deep passion and love for my job. My work feeds my spirit. I simultaneously feel accidentally lucky [...]

Exceptional gifts: choosing to live on through organ donation

All morning I have been procrastinating writing this. Actually, I have put off writing this for a long while, but Mom's birthday this Friday and another letter in the mail has prompted me to sit here until the words come. This will be the second of Mom's birthdays since breast cancer took her last May. [...]

Live awake: The Dude abides and so does your joy

I was just privy to a conversation in a coffee shop...okay, I was eavesdropping in a coffee shop. Sometimes I just can't help it. Here I sit behind my keyboard. Unless I have my earbuds in, I just tend to absorb all that goes on around me even while I write. This conversation was not [...]