Blog 2018-04-14T04:06:20+00:00


The freedom of adaptability: change is my bitch

How do you fear change? All humans fear change on some level. Some people have to have their day play out down to the minute. Others can go with the flow to some extent. I've learned over time in my practice and, most illustratively, in my own life that those best able to roll with change have something important figured out. Of course, I'm not breaking new ground here. Often when Charles Darwin's work is cited and summarized we find [...]

Going for it all: code breaking and discovering new worlds

  My code breaking days are over. I've been a code breaker for almost 41 years and I retired today: I started wearing hearing aids. Most folks I encounter have no idea I am partially deaf. It was just my normal. By sitting in the front of class (deaf teacher's pet), lip reading and applying the strategic "I'm sorry I didn't hear what you said," I found my way to this day with ample success. It wasn't until a few [...]

Reaching escape velocity: being brave enough for instead

No meaningful accomplishment comes without desire. When you are staring down the fear of failure, "meh, whatever" is not going to cut it. We've all experienced it. There is that thing. You know, that thing you tell yourself that you want. That thing that you feel like you really, really want. But there you are giving lip service to your dream. I have to ask you just like I just asked myself: What the hell are you doing? The radical [...]

Love and potential: finding the edge

A few days ago I was in the office for a full day of sessions. I coach individuals and partnerships on the ways of Aphrodite, sometimes that means sex, sometimes love, oftentimes both. As is appropriate, I feel deep passion and love for my job. My work feeds my spirit. I simultaneously feel accidentally lucky and intentionally proud for creating a practice out of offering my strengths to those seeking help. The challenge of working so intimately with people is [...]

Claim your power: nipples, fipples, anarchy, and you

My life of late has been all nipples all the time. When considering my preventative double mastectomy, I was given the option by my surgeon to have a "nipple sparing" procedure. Of course, the whole point of embarking on this adventure was to reduce my risk of breast cancer. Nipples are breast tissue after all. So without hesitation I shared that I wanted the nips gone too. My medical team enthusiastically concurred. After my first surgery, my breast tissue and [...]

Exceptional gifts: choosing to live on through organ donation

All morning I have been procrastinating writing this. Actually, I have put off writing this for a long while, but Mom's birthday this Friday and another letter in the mail has prompted me to sit here until the words come. This will be the second of Mom's birthdays since breast cancer took her last May. I had the revelation that my quiet mood lately stems from that fact. While making the short walk to the mailbox, I heard my first [...]

An incomplete unveiling: an excerpt from my life’s leisure

I've been working on a writing/meditation project for six years. It is the channeling of my mindvoice that has lived anonymously on various hard drives and in the cloud. On a whim and in the name of truthtelling, I grabbed a little over 500 words to share here, because why not? It is perfect right now in its imperfection. The intellectual wrestling is what makes it so compelling and exhilarating. I don't care that it is incomplete. I don't care [...]

Switching sides of the bed: adventures in rule breaking

My Love and I have been working on a little project together. We look forward to sharing it in its entirety in black and white when it is complete. Until then, I couldn't hold back from posting a brief excerpt in the wake of our anniversary. As some of you may know, Brian and I switch sides of the bed every year on our anniversary. It has grown in symbolism for us to represent our intention to always reinvent and [...]

Conquer: an open letter to skeptics after a day in the Living Balance office

You know what is magic? You are. You move through this world with more power than you can even imagine. Every moment your intention ties the universe into stunning shapes and most of the time you don't even realize it. I say it all the time: "You have powerful energy." I sit here observing you, watching you unleash your voice. Sometimes it is an undeniably clear yawp. Sometimes it is self-doubting whisper. Either way, the universe is listening. Your intention [...]

Live awake: The Dude abides and so does your joy

I was just privy to a conversation in a coffee shop...okay, I was eavesdropping in a coffee shop. Sometimes I just can't help it. Here I sit behind my keyboard. Unless I have my earbuds in, I just tend to absorb all that goes on around me even while I write. This conversation was not unlike a number of conversations I have heard among friends. One was lamenting to the other about how she would be excited to have a [...]

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